Throwing it way back for today’s blog, and actually the next blog too, because I realized that the main question I got asked when I was pregnant and the main question I’m still getting asked now that I’m a mom both lead back to Baby+Co. When I found out their 4th Birthday Party was at the beginning of October I thought this would be the perfect time to share MY BIGGEST FEAR AFTER FINDING OUT I WAS PREGNANT, and on the next blog, MY BEST ADVICE FOR NEW MOMS, to help celebrate with Baby+Co. in my own way. Now I know what some of y’all might be thinking. You’ve heard me talk about Baby+Co. before, read our birth story (if you haven’t you can right over here), and have seen photos of us at their events on my Facebook over the past 2+ years, but this is more “behind the scenes” type of stuff so you will definitely want to read this one!
I started showing extremely early, mainly because I could not stop eating haha, but anyways.. I had my fair share of strangers who came up to me and they always asked the same questions: How far along are you? Do you know what you’re having? And are you excited or nervous?! Now by this time I was obviously 15 weeks and up and I would tell everyone I was beyond excited, I loved being pregnant, and I couldn’t wait for her birth. I honestly wasn’t worried about anything at that point, because I had already found Baby+Co. Truth is, at the beginning of this journey my biggest fear was having a traumatic birth that could have easily been avoided. Thankfully after finding Baby+Co. all my fears disappeared and I got to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy without any worries.
So going back to when we found out we were expecting.. After my 3rd or 4th positive pregnancy test I called my doctor in my hometown so I could go get a blood test to confirm, and even though I loved her, the fear washed over me immediately. I needed to find a place up here in Raleigh where, first and foremost, our baby would be safe. But also that I would be safe both physically and emotionally, and that all my wishes would be respected. Those of you who know me know that I’m incredibly stubborn and have to do things my own way, this would be no different.
The moment we stepped into Baby+Co. a calmness just washed over us and after the tour everything just felt right, for Dorian and myself. The staff was so friendly, made us feel so comfortable, and answered all of our questions. I knew we’d be spending lots of time there over the next 9 months and obviously you know that you will grow some type of relationship with these people but what I got out of it was so much more than I expected. I came out on the other side of this, now 3+ years later, with multiple friends. That’s right, they were not just “my midwife” or “my nurse” but are my friends now! They really got to know me, my family, my views and opinions, and I got to know them on a personal level as well. They would remember something unrelated that I mentioned three visits ago and check to see how everything turned out, I never felt like a name on a chart.
I’ve heard so many horror stories from women who had their birth plan printed out, laminated, and gave a copy to every single person that walked into their hospital room but at the end of the day they felt their wishes were not even considered. THIS WAS MY BIGGEST FEAR but at Baby+Co. you can see and feel that all of the women there are extremely passionate about the same thing. They all want to support YOUR birth plan! They will do everything in their power (providing baby and mom are both safe) to help you navigate your intuition and birth exactly how you want, letting your body do exactly what it was made to do. I knew I wouldn’t have to worry about anyone trying to push anything on me that I wasn’t comfortable with because they all have the same goal, to help me give birth naturally and how I felt most comfortable.
So 1/2 the battle is finding the perfect place to actually give birth, but the other 1/2 is being comfortable with the team that will be caring for you. Considering you don’t know who will be there when it’s actually go time, this was extremely important to me. I love that the whole team of midwives at Baby+Co. all practice under the same philosophy of supporting the birth I desired, to the best of their ability, and I never had to worry if we were all on the same page. They do their best to make sure you’ve met everyone through your check-ups but on the off chance that you’ve missed someone they also give you other opportunities through their classes and community events. I feel like those events were where I actually got to know the staff on a more personal level and I actually still go to many of them because it’s another excuse for me to see my friends and meet new staff members.
Being surrounded by a like-minded community I knew that my voice would be heard, and truly understood. I didn’t have any worries throughout my pregnancy because I knew without a doubt that they wanted me to get the birth story I always dreamed about too. So my biggest fear after finding out I was pregnant, having a traumatic birth where I had no control, was thankfully snuffed out quickly when Baby+Co. helped me realize that I had all of the control and that they were all right there with me to make sure I was supported so I could do my thing. And that’s exactly what I did.
“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.”
So thank you Baby+Co. for taking action and giving me the power to create my own birth story.